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Today I will tell you how a man can control his anger.
Let’s start with the fact that anger and its manifestations are a typical example of antisocial behavior that in our society, which is a web of repressive laws, bystanders and video cameras hanging on every corner, can lead a person to prison. In ancient times, the “hit or run” instinct, on the contrary, helped a person to survive and give viable offspring.
A state of anger helped him to attack somebody, and a state of fear helped him to defend himself. The structural element of the brain responsible for implementing these behavioral programs is called the “amygdala” and it is located, or rather, they are, since it is a paired organ, in the temporal lobes of the brain in both hemispheres. The amygdala is also a structural element of the limbic system, which works better in women, which is why women are sometimes highly aggressive.
Two neural formations located in the temporal lobes of the brain belong to the subcortical structures of the limbic system. They are involved in defensive and sexual behavior, in the formation of emotions and memory, and have extensive connections with various structural elements of the limbic system, mainly the hypothalamus, the sensory apparatus, and the Central nervous system.
Animals with removed tonsils showed an inability to aggression and fear. I have already said that one of Professor Savelyev’s favorite jokes is the suggestion that brides and their mothers burn out their almond-shaped bodies before going to the registry office, just as they do with white circus bears, so that they do not maim the trainers.
Thus, the size of the violation of the brain amygdala in people is correlated with their behavior. The more amygdala, the more restrained a person is. This is manifested in the absence of fear and aggression, or, on the contrary, in the hypertrophy of these emotions. Hypertrophy occurs when these areas of the brain are mechanically damaged or if there are new growths in the brain structures.
The mechanisms of fear and aggression have a similar beginning. In both cases, this is the brain’s response to an external stimulus. A sharp noise, a flash of light, or just too fast movement, an unexpected touch. Further, the information from the sensor device enters the amygdala in two ways. The first is a fast path directly to it, bypassing the Central nervous system. The amygdala, having received the first signal of danger, gives a signal to the hypothalamus and that, in turn, through the endocrine system fills the blood with the necessary hormones. This is necessary for an instant, unconscious reaction. Most often, this is a fading reaction. It will not allow you to move towards danger and will allow you to assess the situation before making a decision. On average, the entire process takes 0.85 milliseconds. that’s fast enough.
Then the second signal that passed through the Central nervous system reaches the amygdala. There, this information was processed and evaluated. What exactly is a threat: a bear or a hare, a God’s dandelion or a hefty Jock with no signs of intelligence on his face? Further, depending on the quality of the stimulus (dangerous – not dangerous), the amygdala gives the hypothalamus a command to produce certain hormones. Such as norepinephrine for aggressive behavior, epinephrine for defensive behavior, and the stress hormone cortisol for both behavior strategies.
There is either more adrenaline produced (if you need to run), or norepinephrine (if you need to fight). This state of agitation is characterized by increased muscle tone, accelerated heartbeat, and frequent shallow breathing.
The ancient people were not famous for their restraint, as society was then, to put it mildly, not very developed. How much did the ancients need? Get a mammoth, take your wife from a neighbor, beat your wife for a poorly prepared neighbor, save your possessions, and no courts, public censures, and reproachful looks down on you. Show aggression as much as you want, and no one will say a word to you. Not what it is now.
The human brain has developed noticeably in the course of evolution. But the society did not stand still. People in a developed society are constantly in contact in public transport, at work, in cinemas and eateries. There are plenty of reasons for aggression at every step. And it so happened that in modern society, the manifestation of any kind of intemperance is perceived with hostility. I don’t think the boss will understand you if you back up your request for an increase in salary with a powerful “deuce” in the jaw. And the spaghetti doesn’t taste good in prison. Actually, here we go to the topic of the article. There are many techniques for managing your anger, but many of them are not always easy to use. And in general, in order to completely curb your anger, it is not enough to take a single action. This is a long and time-consuming process. But we’re not afraid of difficulties, are we?
How can we control anger?
As a rule, the feeling of anger does not occur spontaneously. There is a small interval of time between the states of rest and excitement. This is what I was talking about. Biological one second of stupor. The first thing you need to do in a situation of anger is to track its “beginning”.
I have already said that anger and fear are defensive responses to external stimuli. In order to calm down a little, it will be enough to close your eyes for a while or let go of the car that cut you off. If the stimulus is acoustic: there are noisy neighbors or something similar, then the best option is earplugs.
Further, since the state of excitability is characterized by frequent and shallow breathing, it means that you should take it under control. A few slow and deep breaths will calm you down and bring your heart rate back to normal. In General, breathing is your “life jacket” everywhere. This is the Foundation of self-control. Breathing is the only process that we can control of all the unconscious processes in the body and it is the main tool in the fight against instincts. As they say, “Breathe deeply – you are excited!”
Also, the state of excitability is characterized by increased muscle tone. This is also a semi-conscious process. All you need to do is just relax all the muscles. A relaxed person can no longer be angry or fearful.
What will this do from a neurobiological point of view? In fact, you need to transmit to your excited amygdala through the sensory apparatus information that the danger has passed. They, in turn, will give a signal to the hypothalamus to stop producing hormones. The whole process of taking control of your emotions will only take a few seconds. It may not make you white and fluffy, but you will at least pull yourself together. And this will save you from rash actions.
Remember that any stressful situations leave almost indelible furrows on your health. The constant presence of stress hormones wears out the body very quickly. They cause a lot of dysfunctions. Starting from heart problems and ending with weak potency.
And in conclusion, I say that the aggressiveness of men is greatly influenced by testosterone. Its level in the body of men decreases sharply after sex. This is why men who abuse abstinence are as nervous and vulnerable as children who have been robbed of their candy.